Two weeks ago I posted for the first time in seven months about how doing something is better than doing nothing. And how I couldn’t believe how much time had gone by since my last post blah, blah, blah…But that’s what happens right? As adults or grown ups or whatever it is that we are supposed to be responsibility seems to get in the way of the things we want to do or the things we think about doing. The things we wish we could get to or think that one day we will get to are side-swiped by the real life stuff like kids and bills and spouses and jobs and ex-spouses and errands and laundry and trips to the doctor and trips to the grocery store and more laundry and cleaning the kitchen so many times in one day that you swear your life has become reminiscent of the movie Ground Hog Day. Each day becomes an eerily similar version of the day before and you end up bitching about all the things you are not doing. The things you think you want to get to but just can’t for whatever reason.
About three weeks ago, I spent the weekend in New York City. The trip was prompted by an event that Liz Gilbert and Rob Bell were doing in Brooklyn – just a day with Liz and Rob. I really didn’t know what the day would hold, but just knew that I had to be there. Lots of good stuff came from that day – well, the entire weekend really. One thing in particular that Rob spoke of that stuck with me is his notion that what we aren’t doing is boring. I’ve heard this in his podcasts as well but something about hearing it live really brought it to life. All the stuff we aren’t doing is boring – he doesn’t want to hear about that – don’t tell him what you are not doing. Instead he wants to hear about what we are doing – that, he says, is the good stuff, the interesting stuff.
That really got me thinking about this writing thing that I claim to want to be doing – and man, is he right. I am so fucking bored of listening to the excuses in my head as to why I am not doing something that I know I want to be doing. Seriously, B-O-R-I-N-G. So guess what. I decided to do something about it, but knew I would need help. I would need someone to help me be accountable to myself. So I reached out to a very dear friend, Ben. Ben has a blog and has written short stories and has even had stuff published. And he is an AMAZING photographer. Really – this guy is good. And as good as this guy is, I know that he too wishes he could do more – I thought maybe just maybe we could help each other. So I proposed to Ben that we establish a deadline of sorts for our respective blogs – regularly posting every other week (well, I think I originally proposed every week but Ben very wisely suggested bi-weekly). This is what we are doing. This is interesting. And I am curious to see where this goes. Ahhh instant relief from the boring bullshit of what is not being done.
So from now on – in this blog – we are going to talk about the things we are doing. The things that are interesting and exciting and curious. No more boring talk. No more talk of the things we aren’t doing. And if all those things we aren’t doing are really important to us – for what it’s worth, I’ll ask this – whatcha gonna do about it?
And for you, Ben – the quote below. I thank you for being the complete opposite of boring.
“Craft is when you meet up with someone else who’s serious about her craft and you talk for hours about the subtle nuances and acquired wisdom of the work. Craft is when you realize you’re building muscles and habits that are helping you do better whatever it is you do. Craft is when you have a deep respect for the form and shape and content of what you’re doing. Craft is when you’re humbled because you know that no matter how many years you get to do this, there will always be room to learn and grow.” – Rob Bell